I’ve already mentioned why I offer complimentary engagement sessions to all of my wedding couples. But to summarize again: They’re a little (a lot) less busy and less stressful than the wedding day, so it’ll give us time to get to know each other – no pressure, and no timeline to stick to.

If you’re like me, you haven’t gotten professional photos taken since you were a senior in high school, and if you’re like me, you feel horribly uncomfortable with a giant camera pointed at you. That’s okay – most people do.

Engagement sessions are an amazing way to overcome a little of that anxiety, and a great way for me to learn about both of your personalities and how best to capture them. You’ll get a feel for what it’s like to be told what to do with your hands and asked to spin in a circle, and I’ll learn about your little quirks and all your best angles. Whether you’re serious and artsy, or laid back and playful, learning about your unique personality will help me tell your story on your wedding day, the way it needs to be told. I’ll already know which side is your good side, and you’ll have one less thing to stress about. Plus, you’ll get some photos for the save-the-dates!

1. Location

I’m sure by now if you know one thing about me, you know that nature is my jam. I love beautiful scenery – mountains, oceans, trees, it’s all photogenic and wonderful. So of course, my recommendation is always to choose a beautiful outdoor location, and I’ve listed some of my most popular options here. BUT I don’t want you to think you can’t get good photos if your backdrop isn’t so scenic. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable. So if the outdoors isn’t for you or if you don’t want to drive too far, or it’s cold outside, choose somewhere that’s special to the two of you – maybe it’s your home, or the diner where you had your first date. Whatever location you choose, just make sure it reflects your personalities.

2. Outfits

This is possibly the most important part – choosing what to wear. It’s important because the colors, patterns, and textures of your clothes should compliment your location. That might sound overwhelming, but I have a full style guide that goes over this. But I will give you one tip here – dress like yourself. Wear what makes you feel good, and what you feel comfortable and confident in. And of course, if you need outfit tips, just ask me! I’ll be able to tell you which specific colors will look good in the location you chose, and if you send me photos of your outfit options I’ll give you my honest opinions.

3. Timing

The time of day that we take your photos is so important – because while I could take photos in harsh sunlight and they would look good, you would inevitably have a lot of shadows on your faces and the photos wouldn’t be as epic as the ones that you’re used to seeing on my portfolio.

I recommend starting about 90 minutes before sunset for the best lighting. That way, there won’t be any shadows, and we’ll get that gorgeous glow that makes everything look soft and pretty.

4. Have fun!

I know I said outfits were the most important part, but I take it back. This one is just as important. I know wedding planning gets hectic, and you might be worried about how you look or how your engagement photos will turn out. But leave that to me – I’ll do the heavy lifting to make sure you look your best and I’ll make sure you have a good time. So just relax, enjoy the moment, think about how you’ll be married soon, and have fun! Photos are best when you’re genuinely enjoying yourself – and a lot of my job is to help you do that and make you feel comfortable in front of the camera. So come to me with a positive attitude and come exactly as you are, and leave the rest to me.